Hi all, thought it was time to swap to this thread, now that h is put in the open with the ow... brief rundown: h said he was unhappy, had been for a while in march 14, we s and he floated between his mums, or house and a hotel, originally said he was done, then considered reconciling, moved into his own place may 14, things were ok, then I pursued and things went drastically backwards. bd 2 late June, H told me to let him go, that he'd always love me but the feelings weren't there, suspected ow for a long time but ignored it. bd 3 July 14, said he'd been 'talking' to someone, same ow he had a brief a with Nov last year, says he wants to see where it goes. it's all escalated very quickly, he wants (at her pushing) her to meet our three boys, and he had to degreed me off fb (which he then said I should re friend him) that he's to have minimal contact with me. They are away together this weekend, sooo that's it in a nutshell, he has moments where he is affectionate towards me (usually when I'm feeling teary and emotional) and then at other times acts like I am a complete stranger...
Please don't make the mistake I made and allow OW near the kids just yet. That was a huge mistake that cost me lots of emotional days.
Yes my H is back in my house but no he is not "back" in our marriage.
He went public (with family) with OW immediately, and it's been a long road. I know it's hard (sometimes impossible) but don't pursue, try your absolute best not to be emotional/cry around him. I can't do it all the time but I try really hard.
Emotionally just knowing my kids are not playing happy family with OW is a huge relief and allows me to have a much better PMA.
Find out what your legal rights are and stand strong.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Hey gg, so glad you followed me over, I did ring up the free services, so all good there, they were really helpful. twinmom, yes the one boundary I am firm on I'd that the ow is not to meet our boys, I don't care if they've been seeing each other for months(which I strongly suggest is the case, even though he said it's only been 6 to 8 weeks) the boys are too young and they are still trying to used to the idea that mum and dad are s. The school councilor said to both of us that s7 in particular need structure and consistency right now and to let the dust settle before making any more changes. H is any with her this weekend, and I just got text message from him (it's 3 am here! ) asking if I had money he can transfer over til Monday, he's at the casino, ummm in appropriate much?? thus is where his head is at, and yet doesn't think he has a problem with gambling. gg this one is for you, found out today ow got busted(and there's photographic evidence) giving shane warne a 'service' whilst on her knees....classy huh lol lol
H is any with her this weekend, and I just got text message from him (it's 3 am here! ) asking if I had money he can transfer over til Monday, he's at the casino, ummm in appropriate much?? thus is where his head is at, and yet doesn't think he has a problem with gambling.
good thing there's a casino close, to us otherwise he'd go broke driving there.
I would not give him money rule 101 of separation in my world, he's unlikely to give it back so If you can afford to gift it and want to cool, if not dont. Live as if he's not coming back.
Omg shaney, is such a catch he's not someone I would ever want to meet let alone be "with". Seeing him on the covers of trashy mags makes me want to spew.
The ow she's a working girl right! that's naaaaaaasty.
Last edited by Ggrass; 08/08/1411:18 PM.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
good thing there's a casino close, to us otherwise he'd go broke driving there.
he's not someone I would ever want to meet let alone be "with". Seeing him on the covers of trashy mags makes me want to spew.