Yup. My DB coach said the same thing. Don't concern yourself with the "friend zone". Besides, it's far better than the "A-hole husband" zone.
Ok that made me laugh and yes you have a very good point.
I feel like I dodged a bullet today ... things between her and I seemed good but once the mediation thing hit .. seems her fog rolled back in and OM is back in the picture a little bit (not sure .. speculation, but she has plans on Sunday and typically thats always meant her and him ... I did not ask)... so we started talking $$ .. I have been putting less in the past few months ... now if we D this number is going to dramatically decrease according to all I have been told. She asked how much I am putting in, why the difference, I explained these are the numbers I have, she made mistakes in that I was paying all the car insurance, not just mine .. and other items etc, that I was open to discuss and did not want her strapped. Placing a nugget in her head that she is going to have to take a hit financially and not live this life she is now, she has a condo near the beach ... and she cant afford that and our son in the private school along with the nice car she has aswell. I am not pulling the rug out, offered if she needed help this month I would put a bit more in. Might be wrong, but the way I see it , she needs to realize (hard I know with the fog) that the life she thought she might have, is not exactly what is going to happen .. OM or not ... at the least it may make her rethink it a bit ... not that this is how I want to save my marriage ... I just see it as a way to get more time ... delaying her filing for D at the least. ... I may be wrong in this line of thoughts I am not sure. Regardless ... I did a nice 180 as far as the tTM talk on the $$ , remained calm and patient and did not get upset nor say anything that upset her ... baby steps .. we always have fought about $$
