So, just a couple of things, if I may. I believe in this process. The things that I always felt were most important were to take what you want from it and leave the rest and do what works.
Dbing isn't a one size fits all simply because different people, situations, and circumstances are involved.
So, the basic feeling is not to acknowledge the ow. That gives her importance she doesn't deserve. She is really a symptom and a bandaid and matters not in the grand scheme of things.
I would absolutely take this really, really slowly and think you should tell him that.
While this latest development is real positive, he is testing the waters. Trying to see if the changes are real. Trying to see if it could really work. He will be looking very closely.
If he thinks he sees anything at all that he isn't sure of, he can get spooked. I am keeping it real with you because I can see that's how you prefer it.
You have to continue to let him lead.
And yes, you do have power in this. Not necessarily the one he is talking about, although that can be true. The power you have is the ability to control you and who you are becoming.
Be real careful not to put any pressure here, S. He is nowhere near coming out of this.
Your job is to continue to work on you. But there isn't any reason you shouldn't also show him the possibilities, you know?
That's what my dear friend, Raine, was able to do.
