Roller coaster is tough but typical. You're doing it right. Ok to respond in a friendly way, but don't charge in or try to take up ground as then she'll be more hesitant to get closer in the future. I know cake eating is a concern and no one wants to be friend zoned, but you aren't doing anything for her you wouldn't do for a neighbor and I don't think that's your biggest concern right now. My DB coach thinks that's an overused fear, friendly connection in many cases is a good step.
And yes, do the DB coaching with or without the book. It has been TREMENDOUSLY helpful for me. I go from hopeless and confused to confident and poised every time we chat and it has made a difference.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
