Thanks for the support, CaliGuy! We just had the conversation and it was remarkably pleasant. H is planning to pay most of our bills, which is why his idea of a fair number was much lower than mine. H also told me that he doesn't think it's his place to tell me to get a higher-paying job, which I appreciate (although he knows that I am looking anyway).
There was a little bit of R talk. H said that he feels like we are communicating better and I agreed. H said, "That's progress!" which was nice. H made a few "if we don't work out" mentions in passing, but I'm choosing to view that as an indication that he is still hopeful that we have a future as a couple.
We made plans for a date tomorrow night and on Wednesday, with another money talk on Tuesday afternoon. Baby steps!
