I remember getting that letter in the mail too and it is sad. For me it offered a closure date though. I think I was thinking about it less and less after it was final. Don't get me wrong, I still think about it, just not as often and not in the same context. Sounds like a good exercise that your therapist told you about. I hear ya on the "mature man" bit - just don't think they're capable of that right now, maybe not ever again. Hard to say. He probably does have regrets but that's his feelings and none of your business. I mean that with love of course, just sayin' you have to stop emotionally investing in a dead relationship. These are just things I say to myself to help me keep moving forward. The past is the past now, I figure if I keep telling myself that it will eventually be so . I'll be thinking of ya. Make plans for that date to have a celebration, your new freedom, becoming a whole person on your own, pamper yourself that day.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
I mean that with love of course, just sayin' you have to stop emotionally investing in a dead relationship. These are just things I say to myself to help me keep moving forward. The past is the past now, I figure if I keep telling myself that it will eventually be so 
