barely holding on - 2

[u-turn]

Dawgy:

I physically assaulted my wifes OM . I was snooping and caught them together . He was in my wifes vehicle passenger seat holding hands with her but they had the doors locked when I pulled up . I could see the fear in both of their eyes . I punched the side window out of the car and dragged him out through the window and pummeled him mercilessly . It was all in a flash and it happened so quickly . The only thing that saved him was her screaming that she was going to pack and leave if i didnt stop . So i stopped . He was well battered and bloodied . This did me nooooooo good . She didnt leave but actually started seeing him more . It worked in his favor . It was a major screw up on my part but i was so full of emotion i just burst .

So guys/ gals , let this be a lesson > Confronting OM /OW will not do anything but put you in a bad light . And if your as emotional as I am you may do something as foolish as assault . Which I was lucky i didnt severly hurt him and get charged .Nothing good can come out of snooping and spying . DONT DO IT . DETACH . It works for your self and your marriage . It may not save your marriage but it will save you .
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I know it was and still is hard to know what to do, and sometimes it still feels like I want to "handle" things, it wouldn't do me any good, it wouldn't make me look stronger to my wife, it wouldn't teach my kids how to be a good person. (though sometimes it feels like I'm living in a blues song, I don't have to react in the same way).