u-turn, I know you've heard this a thousand times, but be patient.
I go through the same frustrations as you do. You have to understand that her mind is caught in the fog of the affair. The OM consumes her thoughts. I think at this point, any discussions about the situation will either be one-sided (if you don't argue back), or turn into an argument. You just have to stick it out.
She's already starting to see signs of her life crumbling around her (e.g. relationship with her kids).
On one hand, these things could work towards your advantage as she begins to second-guess her A.
On the flip side, she could completely blame you for it. And if it comes to that, I know it would be extremely tempting to fire back, "Well that's part of the consequences of your infidelity". Don't go there!
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
