barely holding on - 2

[u-turn]

I'm not going to stress about the cottage thing until I know more now. Thanks everyone.

Last night, I don'think I was detaching enough. The kids were all in separate places with friends (their own GAL I suppose which is good for them). W resents a little that now they only tell me where they are going. S20 doesn't tell W anything about his whereabouts now. She did get mad about that last night and I listened to her, acknowledged that I heard her, but didn't offer any suggestions of what to do (to either of them). I feel like I didn't help.

So without the kids, we decided to go out to dinner to one of our favorite places. We sat, ate, had regular minimal conversation, went home and off to separate corners. Doesn't seem productive.

I still fight the urges to bring up what I would consider deep and meaningful conversations about life. But no - that usually ruins the evening. So I didn't. I am still waiting for her to say something, or ask something.