lost and desperate

[LisaB]

Ss06! oh no! This information is terrible. I can imagine exactly how you are feeling, I have been through almost the same exact experience before with an ex. Even down to the craigslist thing and the burner phones! Wow. And yes, it was an MLC type thing for him.

Maybe this story will make you feel better? Even though I knew all this info, like you do, I still was willing to work on the R. He was not sure, but mostly said he wanted "a break". I felt a break was a break up and I resisted and insisted over and over again that we work on the R. Finally he wasn't willing to pretend to work on the R anymore and demanded a break.

I moved out and started to feel better pretty quickly. I saw that I had been suffering so much with him and I was relieved not to suffer any more. I didn't contact him at all. At first it was so hard but as I said after about 3 weeks I started to feel better. That was exactly when he first contacted me telling me he made a mistake and was now working on himself.

In the end, he wanted to get back together and I did not. I moved on. For years he still begged me to reconsider, went to therapy several times a week, promised me everything and anything. But I just lost my interest. I felt better without him and his bad behaviors.

I tell you this long story hoping that in some way it might help you. Maybe this separation will give you some peace. Try to GAL and not contact him as much as possible. Give him that space he says he wants. Maybe he will realize that he doesn't want all these other things, he wants you.

And when he comes around then you can see if he is willing to eliminate all the above terrible behaviors.

I wish you luck! Big hugs, Lisa