2.5 Months After D-day...and I wait

[25yearsmlc]

Hey,

Your life sounds so co-dependent and "needy" that it sounds pretty shallow and Unappealing.

What's up with you?

So, You did not think you were "satisfied" with the sex you had with your fiancee --so you cheated, over time, and NOW you realize your life is over if your fiancee does the normal thing?

Can you see why it might NOT be worth it to HER, to try again?

Did you have a PLAN at all for how this was going to turn out? I'm not trying to be a bitch, I'm asking you sincerely, what the heck were you thinking would happen? That No one would ever know?

Well ANYHOW,---- they all know now...

so, since you seem convinced YOU cannot GAL

b/c your situation is so much harder than others, or something, you need to know
SOME of what I did when I lived up North....

and see if ANY of these activities, almost all of which were new for me, could appeal to you OR if something like some of them, might.

TRY.....


For GAL suggestions, let me mention some of what I did when we lived in the interior of Alaska, even in the winter. I had 3 kids including a baby (so you know I

don't want to hear about how 'busy' you are, or 'too busy' to GAL).

Inertia is the greatest enemy to GAL. Overcome that, & you'll be well on your way

to a happier more fulfilling life. IMO, the more you overcome inertia, the better

your R's will be with all people, including your w.

Here goes...

I volunteered at a battered women's shelter.

I coached a girl's softball team, two summers (my older D was on it).

I was on the board of directors for Wrestling, (b/c our son wrestled).

I auditioned for community theater and met some fun creative people. I got cast, too.

I did stand up comedy (and yes, I still do it). I did a whole set once on a MLCs at the Hollywood Improv. It went very well.

I learned to cross country ski, I became a better shooter.

I Learned to hunt big game, to deep sea fish, & I got better at downhill skiing.

I learned to use a snowmobile ("snow machine" to Alaskans) I loved riding.

Learned to fly a plane, and I got a pilot's license.

Went skydiving. Loved it so much I did it again. I plan on doing it again, soon!

Edited a book. (The book ended up on the Best Seller's List. Who knew?)

I Worked out 3-4 times a week, and I really did get in excellent shape. Looking good made a world of difference to me. Found a work out partner and began socializing after the work outs.

(Plus I'd just had our last child and needed to lose the baby weight. It was not easy to do, let alone in the dark, deathly of their long LONG cold winters).

In the winter, I used a tanning booth, which helped me a lot with depression. I felt more energized, and it probably helped my appearance, which also helps us FEEL better.

Saw a therapist and for some months, went on ADs.

Took a pottery class (very odd for me to do, but I really liked it a lot).

Joined the Officer's Wives club after 15 years of active duty & ignoring them.

(Wish I had joined sooner! Met two women who are life long friends to this day.)

Joined a writer's group

Took a class in Conversational French

Took a class in Italian cooking

There is more, but I just wanted to suggest to you a few things you can do that do Not cost a lot.

Other than pilot training, most of these ^^ activities were free, or quite cheap.


Keep on keeping on....