Bob, thanks for looking out for me, however, I think that's actually what labug is doing too. I think she just wants me to keep my eyes open and not have this go down an abusive and dangerous track.

I thank you both. I know I've got some rough patches ahead. My W has made that clear. **mind-reading alert: I think she actually does want to reconcile but is really smarting about the idiotic EA I got into after she dropped the bomb. **

She did say, for the first time tonight, "I don't know what I want. I have a lot to get over."

Biggest current issue S5 starts kindergarten soon at the same school as OW's son. My W is really not cool w/ that. I'm actually not either. Our other option is private school, but we should have made that call 3 months ago and saved some $$ by not paying to hold his daycare spot. Ugh. I've got to find a fix for this.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.