Phoenix slowly rising

[T-boned]

Thanks TL and cc. I'm not even on FB, but I know he is and his GF is. So that is not an option and I have been pretty good about not 'looking' for anything. I always figured it would be better to just keep my eyes straight ahead. Not that I don't desperately want to look at his FB page to see what he's posting - I could go through my friend across the street and I think she looks at his stuff, but she's been good about not tempting me with it.

My therapist had me do an interesting exercise. Two columns - one with all his good traits, the other all the less desirable traits. Then draw a figure of him and fill it with both the good and 'bad' traits. Look at that and see if that is what you want to go back to. I have to say, the less desirable traits (lying, faking it, not honoring vows and a few other things)kind of overshadowed the good traits.

Got the divorce papers in the mail yesterday - Aug 25th we're done. Makes me sad he couldn't be a mature man about all this. Now it's some other womans's problem. Maybe they'll be good together. I really hope he does find happiness. But I also hope he regrets leaving, something tells me he won't though. Oh well.... Move on.

Thanks again, cc and TL.