U-turn, first thing that came to my mind about the cottage trip was boating accident. But that's just being mean. It certainly would be awkward, especially is OMW was there too. Too many triangles to deal with. But the opportunity for a good heart to heart with OMW would certainly liven up the visit. I don't know if I would be able to handle that situation. Maybe best to set boundaries - if OM is going you're busy elsewhere. I was in a similar sitch during the last days of my first marriage. We hung out with another married couple where the H was having an EA with my W. It got very uncomfortable sometimes. I thought it was just a phase she was going through and had no idea about DB, DR or SBT. Ended in D. Now my 2nd W is a WAW. But DBing has helped. Sandi has helped. The A is over but WAW is still at arms length. No reconciliation yet. Still working through a bunch of things. It's been 8 months since D-day. I want her back so bad it hurts, but need to stay detached and keep DBing. It take such patience that I find it hard not to grab her and hug her every so often. Not constructive at all but it feels good for me. Not for her. Sets me back a week or two. So you see having patience and letting things unfold on their own is actually the faster way to get to a new M. Very counterintuitive, but very true.
Last edited by PeterV2; 08/08/1404:17 AM.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
