What do I want to do? Whatever I need to do to get my wife back. I have cut contact with her. As I said, it was always her who contacted me first until this most recent issue because it was a serious thing regarding her hurting herself. However as I said, I am going back to NC now. As far as concentrating on myself, in fariness, I really have been. I'm quite proud of myself. I had to get a job, car, and apartment in about 40 days. I had to get settled in a new place and to a whole new life. I had to GAL and meet up with old friends and doing things. I met a lady in that process. Plus the WAW sees all of these changes too. So I really have been focusing on myself...I've really had no choice. The only contact I've had with WAW was initiated by her and was all about business. The security deposit check was the last official dealing and that's when we said good-bye "forever." Then came the news that she tried to hurt herself. That was the only time I contacted her ever and that's what led to her being here for two days.
So I will do as you say, NC for WAW at all. I'll just have to wait and see if she goes through with this FL move at the end of September. Either way it's back to NC and GAL for me and focusing on slowly getting to know my new lady friend.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14