Lisa, I'm glad others finally started chiming in. I was out of useful advice, and was at the point of posting on your thread to try and keep it near the top so there would see it. Glad that worked. Keep being strong.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.