Saving my marriage by focusing on ME (Part 2)

[nit84]

Ox, If she leaves she leaves, YOU can't control HER in any way. She is on her own journey no matter what she says.

I know you don't want her to leave, but if she stays my fear for you is she is going to cake eat till you get fed up enough and blow up thus justifying her position as a WAW.

I am not saying to force her out but don't do things that make you look like you cant be without her in the house.

In my sitch, I don't want my W to leave but if she does I am not stopping her for a couple reasons first, The space might help me to stop mindreading so much and maybe projecting a wrong aura. Second, she will have to live with her actions and the consequences that come with living the life she wants.

Third, by moving out, it takes pressure off of me and puts it on OM. My hope is that the true colors show through and my W sees that the grass ain't greener. Or then OM has to stand up and be a real man and do all the things he has probably promised her to drag her into the fog, maybe he will but my hope is he wont.

Then if W feels like coming back, I have regained some power in the relationship, Not control, but power.

I can then decide to take her back if she is truly remorseful and wants to work on things or I can say I am just fine with the way things have been since you left.

Hang in there!!