mleigh, Mlcers tend to think "out loud". Right now, he still thinks the issues were because you neglected him. Listen and validate, but do not argue w/him. This is his perception of how things were. Yes, there may have been times when this may have been true, but he could have voiced his opinion and the both of you could have found a way to work things out, i.e., either by talking, taking time out for each other or going to MC.
During this time, he's going to say a lot of things that either are true or are Memorex. At some point, the fog will gradually begin to lift and his version of what took place may begin to change. Yes, he's got to continue working on himself. He may attempt to sweep things under the carpet, but eventually the broom and dust pan will need to come out and those issues will need to be visited and then discarded. He's not there yet.
He's got a ways to go, so let him be. Continue as you have been. Dig for more patience and live your life to the fullest. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
