I don't really have any ideas on how to help you stay out of the friend zone. I hope you find a way.
Like Starsky says above it is probably better if boundaries are set earlier than later.
In my case, my W is not talking to me so it is hard to set boundaries. I would love to but it may be too late so I have to figure out something new.
You and your W cancelled the D and are talking. I would think this is makes it much easier to express to your W that a little respect is in order and please don't mention OM because that shows a lack of it.
About six weeks ago my W and I were discussing(she was yelling)some things about her probable A and every time she kept getting madder and madder because I handled it wrong.
I asked her why she was getting upset and she said I was harassing her. I said no, it is because you got caught and it p**ses you off.
I should have left it at that but I screwed up and said If you lose the OM, I still love you and we can work this out.
I guess what I am trying to say is maybe instead of walking out of the room when your W talks about OM.
Maybe stay and look her right in the eyes and tell her it is not going to be acceptable for you to keep talking about OM anymore. Then walk out.
Just my .02
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
