An excellent read, Ox, is a book called "Love and Respect," by Eggerichs and Eggerichs. It goes into great detail about how a woman's feelings of love for a man are very closely tied to her feelings of RESPECT, and how if she loses the latter she will slowly lose the former.
It's written from a Biblical/Christian perspective, but I think it's spot-on even just physiologically and culturally. I learned a TON from it.
