Funeral for a husband, love lies bleeding

[cczamo]

Well the same evening that exH asked me a favor of keeping his 2 dogs overnight this weekend, he did a WHAM, knock me back two steps punch.

He had set up a new sound system with my television in May the morning of the day he moved out. The system's base sound is out of balance (i.e, the speech is too quiet, but then scene changes and BOOM! the sub-woofer is so loud it scoots across my hardwood floor). I've messed with the settings as I recall him showing me, and I cannot get sound to be where it's livable. I've had to watch every show with the remote in my hand to constantly adjust and it's frustrating!

So when he called about coming over later that day to drop off my COBRA health insurance paperwork and his check to Aetna, I asked him over phone if he could quickly adjust the sound while he was going to be at house.
He replied "No, you fix it. You figure it out. Look in the manual. I am never coming into that house again." I said, "What? Why? Could you please repeat?" Floored that he felt that way. He repeated my name, and in a calm voice, "I am never coming inside the house, ever again."
Wow!
So I then after that phone discussion, knowing I had 15 min before he'd arrive at house. I found pdf file of the stereo receiver manual, and emailed it to him asking him to let me know which pages of the 220 page manual the pertinent instructions could be found. I am NOT a techie in the least, and for the last 15+years HE handled all my computer, cell phone,stereo settings.

15 min later, when he arrived at the front door to hand deliver the check and papers, I asked him if he could at some point,in no rush, look on his email at the pdf manual. Once again he said "you'll figure it out." He turns and walks away. I never once said a cross word. I was actually too stunned, since this kind of technical challenge made him happy and he loved to solve.
So I had the WHAM knocked breath out experience. I must admit I was down for a few hours.
I'd thought about telling him to get someone else to watch his dogs overnights this weekend, but I know that he'd just say something like," then, you'll never see them again. I'll find someone else to watch them from now on." He would do that. He would say that.

That was 8/5, and today, 8/7 I'm okay again. I'm wondering why he never wants to come in house again. He goes into back yard to pickup and deliver his two dogs all the time. Coming inside is evidently never happening.