Wife still in MLC but has now left #2

[Shining]

Matt, you really are doing great. I haven't posted about my first marriage, but I will say that I know the continual bomb feeling. It is a living he//. I'm so so sorry.

For me, even that did get better. Of course every sitch is different. But the stuff he did to me and my kids was unspeakable and I wished him six feet under for a long time. Kids weren't speaking to him. He ultimately gave us permission to move to a different state. The fresh start, for us, was the best thing in the world. To not have him in our lives. I didn't speak of him negatively, nor did I allow the kids. That wasn't for him, but for them. I didn't want them to have hatred in their hearts because I knew it would haunt them later. I always taught them they got a crappy deal, and it wasn't fair. And they deserved a real dad. I told them that someday, they will have to have a conversation with him to reconcile all he has done to them. Not expecting him to admit or apologize, but they needed to get it out. Never never never in a million years would I imagine that a year ago, which is now about 7 years later, he and I have slowly developed a cordial friendship. He and the kids are communicating now. After we left the state, I couldn't tell you what he did with himself. But he is a different man today. He speaks differently. It is mechanical and forced empathy at times, but he makes the conscious effort to say and do the right thing. I am actually proud of him.

The best possible outcome has already happened.

I can't predict what will happen with your family. But I can attest to the fact that stranger things have happened in the world. Years from now, who knows. Just keep the white hat on, and love today.