I'm sorry you received this news. I know it's difficult. This is strictly my opinion and others may disagree. I wouldn't chime in much on what kind of place your h chooses to live in. It's really his decision so I would suggest not offering up much assistance. He's making a decision and needs to handle it. Unless it's a situation where you genuinely feel you need to offer input (safety for kids, school issue, etc), I would leave it to him.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer