As always I worry that I am detaching too much and missing opportunities to connect and pursue, but overall I still believe strongly that calm, kind GAL-ing detachment is what is called for, for a good while longer. Like months probably.
If you don't mind, could you explain how you see detaching?
In the meantime, let me say this from the viewpoint of a WAW. Do not look for opportunities to pursue her! Pursuing a WAW does harm to the M.....so remember that every time you have the urge.
In reading your thread, it seems you are the one in the MR that needs the emotional connection. It sounds as if you could be co-dependent. I can see why she would feel you were smothering her. You look for reasons to connect and pursue!
You are completely over-thinking the sleeping arrangements. Why are you so hung up over the master bedroom and needing your privacy? And why would leave your own home to get a hotel room? (BTW, I read what you wrote.)
You've talked about your changes. Can you list them? What goals are you working on at this time? What are you doing to GAL?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
