How is the MC working out? We aren't doing MC. Just IC for me. I wouldn't press the issue of MC or that particular appointment.
We did a few sessions of MC in May/June and then I asked to stop and switch to IC for a while. He wasn't opening up at all, wouldn't give up OW, we weren't getting anywhere, and I just didn't see the point. I thought IC would be more useful. I have been to IC once, he hasn't been at all although he says he's going to.
The reason for going back to the MC at this point would be to discuss how to deal with/tell the children about a separation. He agreed to this when we first discussed putting some terms around the separation, and he promised that he would not move out until this appointment happened. Since then, I haven't brought it up at all, if he really wants to move out, then he's going to have to do the work around that.
Unfortunately, I have seen almost no change in H since BD. He's emotionally shut down completely. No talk about R, no affectionate pats, no affectionate words, no response to my gestures (e.g. bringing him coffee), no "you're welcome" to my "thank yous", nothing to give me hope. The only reason I have any hope at all is because he hasn't actually moved and because we do in fact get along well. My thought is if I can just wait long enough for OW to turn into the nagging b!tch that I am not, then he may see me as the more attractive option.
