That's good advice Mighty - Atsbaby - we are all out of league with this, you nailed that. I gave it to God as well, and I asked for strength every day and he gave it to me. It's a painful journey, I wish it on no one. It takes time to detach, it's easier once they leave to be honest. Things got so much better for me once he left, the first night feels like a death, I won't sugar coat it - after that it got a little easier every day. Work on you, GAL, see an IC if you need to, I went to a free divorce group and that helped me more than anything. I found out all kinds of things about myself and then was able to acknowledge those things and work on myself instead of trying to fix something I couldn't - happiness is found within and you can only control you and your reactions. No one can make you feel a certain way, only you allow those feelings. Allow time for the grief, vent it out - journal journal journal. I would get that stuff out of me by journaling every night and praying probably 5x a day. You will grow stronger and if you do pray - definitely ask for strength and say something like "I put this in your hands" and you will find some relief I hope. Finding a distraction definitely helps - I was doing gardening like crazy, lost 30 lbs in 3 months, started smoking (I don't recommend this lol) but I found some really good friends and became independent vs co-dependent and really know that I'll be ok. You will too, takes a lot of time but have faith. Change is scary. Let him go on his journey and you start to create your own path. Take care, keep posting!
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs