And I've definitely gotten to the point where I don't want the old marriage back (that feeling actually comes!).
This is a great place to be MLP. This makes me happy for you! I can feel the beginnings of this, for maybe 5 minutes at a time. Most of the time, I'd just take what I had, even recognizing it wasn't so great a lot of the time. I definitely have some work to do in that area, I know I deserve much better, but I'm still willing to settle for less. Doesn't sound right when I actually say it, but it's true.
H is out of town at a work trade association conference through Sunday. I have no idea if OW is with him or not. We texted quite a bit about the bathroom remodel and some kids stuff, everything was pleasant. I have three more days of that.
So far he hasn't made the appointment with the MC (who is also a FC) to discuss how to tell the kids he's leaving. Yes, I think he's conflicted. He says he wants to go, looks for apartments, but hasn't actually done anything. I'm sure OW is putting pressure on him to leave. But honestly, what kind of idiot woman would put up with him? "Baby I love you but I still live with, sleep with, and vacation with my wife." Why would she do that? Has she no self respect whatsoever? The dark side of that is that I'm doing the same thing, allowing him to live with, sleep with, and vacation with ME all while he's cheating. Hmmmm..... something to think about today.
