GG, You can't fix him. He has to be the one to step up to the plate. Unless he's willing to do the work, no matter what you do, it will never be enough. So, please step back, allow him to figure things out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
