I went through a similar situation as you are. During my first round of divorce, my wifes attorney had the upper hand at first. I figured out that my original attorney was not the best one for my situation. He was following the typical path that a lot of divorces follow and not putting a lot of effort into it. I dropped him and found a new attorney. Rather than a country attorney, I went to a wealthier city nearby and found a good attorney there. He was more focused on the case and spent a lot of time getting prepared. When we had our next session, He actually went with guns loaded and asked for her to provide alimony to me. Her attorneys mouth actually hit the floor. She then disputed facts that my attorney provided about my wife that she did not have. My wife lost a lot of ground during that court session and the first divorce fell apart shortly after that.
I would suggest you ask yourself if your lawyer is doing the best they can for you. If not, then you have to decide if you can accept what is happening or get a new lawyer.
In terms of your daughter, your daughter may have the right to choose who she lives with. In my state, by their teens the kids have more say. You should look into this and then make sure your daughter is fully aware of what the law says and if she can, then she should know she can choose.
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