lost and desperate

[LisaB]

Hi Ss06, just checking in on your story, thanks for visiting mine!

As far as your H moving out, I think it might be a positive. And it sounds from what he said that he is not thinking of it as absolutely a permanent move so that is great! Lucky you!

The space will give you time to think, to work on yourself and to get some calmness.

It sounds to me like you have very good reasons to micromanage, but I think that you should definitely work on that tendency. First of all it stresses you out to always anticipate what may happen and be totally prepared. (it's part of being a mom of course) And also it effects the people you micromanage. They become passive. And stressed. So it doesn't work in your favor at all. But I know this is a super difficult thing to change. Baby steps and small wins. Like your Sprinkles cupcake story. You have to let it go sometimes and just trust that it will work out. Maybe not the way YOU would have preferred but people have to make their own mistakes and suffer the consequences in order to learn for next time. I'm not so much a micromanager myself but I have close friends and family members who are and I see the effects. I too can also fall into this pattern sometimes, and I am working on not doing it! It's HARD but usually the payoff is good for peace within yourself and more freedom and independence for others.

Enjoy SF and keep us updated! Hugs, LisaB