WAH - next chapter

[LisaB]

Hi watto14, Ss06 and pilot, thanks so much for checking in on my story!

Indeed I think NC and PMA and all that are my best friends. And yes, Ss06, I completely struggle with detaching, but I am working on it. I tell myself over and over that you can't control another person and we are all "free" but sometimes it is just words and sometimes I can actually feel and embrace it.

Ss06 I am going to come check in on your thread to talk about the LL etc! We definitely have some things in common.

There has been a small movement in the past day. I have been completely NC for 4-5 days and last night I got a cold text from H about practical matters. I chose to go with what I said in my letter and just act as if I had moved on, accepted the situation and was no longer upset. So instead of being b!tchy in reply to his message, I was practical and brief but friendly and polite, which lead him to ask how I was and if I was "still mad". I acted breezy and said I was doing great and not mad. He then asked why I was no longer angry to which I replied that I had "let it go".

He then wanted to talk R stuff, asking me what I had thought of his letter. (the letter was about how the R was done and how he recognized and was sorry for his actions) I sure as h#ll didn't want to get into that over text so I just said it was nice he wrote such a thoughtful email.

He probed for more, asking if his letter had changed the way I saw the situation. I said I was sleepy and we'd talk later, and ended the conversation in a friendly way.

Any thoughts on this from you all, my friends?

I felt good about how I handled it. I think he has not been contacting me for the last few days because he was afraid I was furious after our conversation last week.

Not sure what steps to take from here other than more of the same NC, GAL, PMA, 180s.

It's so great to have this forum. My friends IRL are all completely against working on the M and say he is a jerk and don't be polite to him and all that. At this point it is getting a bit difficult to talk to them about it. I understand that, they are just trying to protect me. And sometimes I wonder if I am just in denial and they are right.

If anyone has insights, I'd be happy to hear them!

Hope everyone is having a good one.
Hugs, Lisa B