Lisa! We have similar situations! Wow. We should talk. I think your attitude is really positive and you're digging through some poignant stuff. I'm impressed and inspired by your strength, even in moments of perceived weakness.
My h is also "done". It's my fault for sure, I know my role in the sitch. Now I'm trying to GAL like crazy and detach, which is a struggle. Do you struggle with that too?
My h has said he's "confused" as well, which I'm choosing to see as a positive. (Denial?) he's moving out on Saturday and I'm terrified even though the physical space will allow me to really get some serious work done inside myself.
I'm struggling with how to fill his talk through his LLs once he's out into his own place. They are physical touch and words of affirmation. Is it ok to touch the man who is slowly breaking my heart? How do I affirm him without looking painfully obvious? "I can see you're really living alone quite nicely, let me affirm that."
I guess it's pretty obvious why I'm here... Even faced with a grave situation like this one I can't seem to figure out how to show him love the way he wants it. Is it the same for you?
