Dealing with ongoing affair -which may now be over

[PeterV2]

She is too private about her whereabouts, phone, etc. She doesn't like it if you causally ask where she's going. I believe she's got to let go of it.....if she has nothing to hide. If she's going to be in a M with you, she can't have a hidden life you know nothing about.

She keeps saying she need to find herself. To get her life back. She doesn't want to be dependent on anyone. She want her freedom. She feels like a prisoner having to be at the RH all the time.

She does go out & visit friends. She went to a function Sat night with some other ladies - stayed out late. So she does take time off - especially when the staff are on duty during the days. She still begrudges me my GAL and that I can seemingly come and go as I please. I didn't argue with her. Not a battle I want to fight right now.

So I think keeping her phone and life private from me is a way of exerting her freedom and independence from me.

As for a program to get the M back on track I got the Strong Marriage Now program by Dr Dana Filmore. Basically training on half a dozen threads: spend more time together, communication,
conflict resolution, handling money issues, dividing responsibilities, and sex. It may help.

We do have a MC but we have only seen her individually except for one time 3 days after BD. W wants to see her after she gets back from the cottage. Then I think we should go in together and start SBT.