Thanks FY, I actually did this right after B-day. I also told my W who was telling me she couldn't sleep more than a few hours a night because she couldn't stop from worrying, couldn't stop the bad thoughts, that she should do the same. This way she had to think of the good, not the bad before trying to sleep. She never listened to me or didn't do it because I had suggested it. In the beginning she would refuse to do anything I suggested. I will start doing this again.
Another thing that just occurred to me. The 3 times that my W has just come into my home to take whatever she wants, she was either with her father, step mother or both! I don't think THAT is a coincidence! Again, I don't know if she would have done so if she was alone or not for sure, but I think that shows just how much affect they are having on her.
