For better or for worse, for richer or for PORES?

[Shining]

Thank you, daring, I have been reading your thread, too .

For anyone who has been here or knows others who have, I am wondering about the different schools of thought regarding ow discussion.


Ever since May, I have not brought topic of ow into any conversation. I pretty much removed her from my brain like a tumor. Ow is irrelevant. Unless......H wants to get sexy.

So, because have been told she is there everyday, but she isn't discussed between me and H, do I continue to act "as if" she doesn't exist and that I don't know anything?

IF H DOES TRY TO GET SEXY....then what?

Do I decline and just say we need to take things slowly, which could be taken as a rejection of him since he's soooooo sensitive?

Or, am I better off asking if ow is in the picture, then he may lie, then I know he's lying and that's not good either.

Or, do I tell H I know she's still in picture because of people who have told me...then he gets paranoid and wonders who all is telling me stuff and that's not good either.

Open for thoughts?