Maybell VI

[Meghan]

That's a hard thing to articulate. I think the basic argument - I am your wife, and therefore should be different from a friend - is true, but not all that specific and doesn't really get to the heart of it.

It's like being demoted. It's a loss. And it seems to me that there's also an element of cake eating, like we've always talked about - like your H. is denying your value when it suits him so he can have his cake and eat it too.

I don't think you've necessarily kissed your marriage goodbye. I think you've asserted boundaries that will allow you to eventually have a stronger marriage, and that show that you're someone who knows your own values and your own boundaries, which is attractive.

If you wound up back in your marriage without knowing your worth, you'd likely wind up here again, or in another not great place. Know your value!