Thanks Shining and Artsy, I appreciate your posts. I know you are right and at this point it's not the loss og my W, best friend, etc. It's the trail of destruction to so many I care about as well. My oldest D19 has had to move in with her boyfriend, my youngest has had just about every part of her life destroyed from losing her friends, her home, her mother, her pets, everything! My MIL cries every time she talks to my W on the phone (my D14 told me this when she was staying with her), I just can't help my girls financially now because my W picked when I was making the least I have in the last 20 years. Not to mention the stress from the way my W has been acting (depression/anxiety, MLC, etc.) for the last several years and I am a bit overwhelmed.