Just a quick note to those who are doing the Detaching thing.
Going on a trip with H to the city where OW lives is not detaching. Duh. I could have told me that, but I didn't.
(It was the only way that I was going to get to the ILs summer house....the only way there via plane is through OWs city. Anyway, I picked this, so I get to live with the oogie triggers and yucky feelings.)
NOTE: I have no idea what current relationship status is between OW and H, other than they still work with each other. So....things are a little murky.
OTHERWISE - If you don't have an IC, get one. Now that I'm about 8 weeks in, I have to say that this is valuable time. It is definitely helping me GAL and establish (or confirm) boundaries. It's really nice to figure out that it's okay to be sad, that I'm not totally crazy, and bad habits can be fixed. It takes work, but it can be done.
