I think it's a little of both, but my going for it makes it easier for him to delay addressing his issues. If we are slowly rebuilding our relationship he knows I'll be more patient; if he just wants to be friends then I don't have any reason to delay working with the lawyer.

I actually believe we will come back together because of some things that transpired in MC. But the bar is higher than it used to be for making that happen, which I think he knows.

But it really doesn't matter, because regardless of his motives I am not able to live the relationship that way without coming to pieces. Now that I am aware of my capabilities and my boundaries I must honor them. My kids are depending on me to be healthy, and I feel better than I've done in a long while.


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.