Saving my family - Part 13

[25yearsmlc]

Sandi's rules say to never initiate a discussion about the relationship. Does that hold true forever?

Of course not. How could you ever reconcile?

These "rules" state they are NOT rules but merely guidelines. These are things she threw together one day, when she found herself repeating the same mantras and advice to people. They are more like bullet points based on MWD's books, not "rules" by any stretch.


They do NOT apply to all situations (which she states in there, up front) and they evolve too. If you are a person who neglected your spouse and chidden so YOU could work at the job you love, then yet more neglect and more "Not pursuing" is NOT the best course for you, right? In that scenario, pursuing is probably THE PATH to her heart...

If you were a serial cheater, then letting your w know you are interested in OWs and being mysterious, is NOT the path YOU should follow...correct?

So you tailor the suggested GUIDELINES, to suit your situation and as it evolves, you also evolve as does your behavior.

Got it?

There are things I'd like to talk to her about, mainly about how we could start a new life together with our kids. Should I go there?

I'd have to read the whole thread but wanted to address your post herein. It's a very common and dangerous misperception about the "rules",

which are NOT RULES at all. Sandi will probably have to write them over again to get that across.