Kelly, sorry to read of your experience at this time. Joe's actions don't 'match' his notes. Ss06 is right. Many of us started pretty much the same - hurt, confused, anxious & BETRAYED. Follow Cadet's advice & GAL!!
I have been catching up on all of his suggested reading. I am in still in 'data gathering' stage, so a lot is not sorted out as yet, but I can post 1 link for now. Try to distract yourself as much as you can - esp. in the beginning. Take care of yourself - he's going to do what HE wants anyway, so start your plan for yourself. It's going to be awhile. Don't let him get you sicker. Your mind is strong & a good healthful diet, some 'brain dumping' (venting, meditation,) to alleviate the anxiety, in addition to the advice here will help you go a long, long way.
Remember too that there are many good people here. You have support here. I am also dealing with a cake eater (who is on 'borrowed time & doesn't know it yet - relative to 'pending outcomes'). Franky, I don't know where I would be had I not stumbled across this forum & the wonderful people here. Follow the advice - & welcome again p.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
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I am also dealing with a cake eater (who is on 'borrowed time & doesn't know it yet 
- relative to 'pending outcomes'). Franky, I don't know where I would be had I not stumbled across this forum & the wonderful people here. Follow the advice - & welcome again p.
