Of course she refuses. She is in a fog. She is being very selfish.
Pilot did you read THEIR marital history? Her needs have not been met by a long shot for a long time. This was recognized by him before but has been "forgotten" b/c of hurt feelings in the h.
IF she is clinically depressed, which I suspect, I would not call it "selfish". But regardless, HE is supposedly working on HIMSELF and in a very short time -- wants to quit b/c the pay off isn't certain.
That's how I (mostly) see it.
And she does not care what you think. All our WAS think this way. I am very uncomfortable with such sweeping generalizations like this, applied to "ALL" people and ALL couples. Frankly, I don't believe it anyhow.
Too simplistic...not at all a customized approach for a specific couple.
Just my .02
You should have already been prepared for this line of thinking. Which is why they say believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see.
This is also why detaching is so important. It allows you to avoid these types of emotional blow ups that set you back. Think about it.
Keep doing what DB says to do and you will find yourself in a much better place. Even if it is without your W.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
