Son 14 talked with W. He told her how he felt and why he was mad at her. She responded things just happen. How do I deal with this?
Not yours to deal with. Be glad she didn't blast you b/c although she seems very depressed, in her heart/mind she does blame you for neglect and casting her needs aside, and never asking HER of preferences or input for decisions.
She's the main bread winner, which means there is pressure for her to perform AND keep the money coming in, and she has been in that position for some time. She feels she is working to put food on the table AND is the nurturing parent for the others, the intimacy needs were NOT met by a long shot, and she's very unhappy --has been for awhile. She sounds Depressed to me.
If she really won't get help, so be it. SHE is the one who is miserably sad. Stay in your sandbox and become the man you wanted to become, for her, for the m and for Yourself.
I think she will, but I'm not sure when.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
