BklynMom, the weeks after BD my H too only looked for reasons to justify his behavior. Although there were times he'd cry and hug me, his words still always said that he had to divorce and wipe his slate clean and move on. Although, his actions sometimes showed otherwise, he has never wavered on that. And now we're at a point that we do not speak to each other at all, which makes things even more uncomfortable. No hello, no goodbye, no nothing.
And that's exactly it, everything is my fault. He would not be with her if I gave him what he wanted (because I'm a psychic and knew what he wanted). I drove him to this and "this is the hand we've been dealt and we have to deal with it".
I haven't done his laundry in weeks, nor have I done anything else for him. I don't know about an OM but I'm definitely GAL. I finally told my brother and sisterinlaw this weekend which was a relief and I have dinner plans for tomorrow night with one of my closest friends and I finally plan on telling her.
You've mentioned it to me before but I will check out Alanon for sure. Thanks.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home