I read the book prior to her, and we talked about how to get the spark back, how to turn me (the frog) back into a prince. It is difficult to balance the DB ideas with showing care and love to her, but it is working slowly. I gave her the deal that at any time she needs space or time alone, I will go to the other bedroom to sleep so she can relax and be with herself to think. No pressure from me.. I also have not told her "I love you" in over 3 weeks of the separation and will wait for her to say it first I think. That way I am not putting any undo pressure on her. I also don't ask where she was, or text her or phone her. Leaving her have the space and time to reconcile on her own time schedule. Hard to do.. But really worth it.
