I just wanted to add that I'm glad that there seems to be a spark of recognition of his role in all of this in what he said to you. It's so hard to feel like your partner doesn't see you - or, worse yet, blames you - and it's good that maybe he's starting to come around a bit. Do let him come to those realisations, though - pushing them on him isn't likely to get you very far. I know it's hard to wait for him to do what he needs to do (I'm staring down that particular gun myself right now), but you can do this!
M - 34 H - 36 Together 10 years Married 4 years BD - March, 2014