I am with you man. I am getting to the stage where I am getting used to being away from them sometimes and that scares the hell out of me. I don`t want to get used to separation as normal. Family is normal and hard to be at home without WAW and kids.
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Going dark is definitely worth it, I have figured out Everytime we talk or texts it takes a couple of days to get back to being comfortable. The communication brings up positive and negative thoughts at the same time. Just not ready to deal with the bad stuff yet I guess.
Yeah I think going dark has been good for me as well. I think making sure not to mindread is the toughest cause `lack of communication is the devils playground`Keep on it...it will take awhile for her to figure it out I am sure she like my WAW doesn`t like it.
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I have been having a hard time finding people to hang out with. I know a few people, but Everytime I ask to do something they are busy. I have bee netting out a lot on my own lately though, which helps, but I need some people around. Nice to just have positive interactions with others.
Me too! I have this bachelor friend I hang out with but he kinda depresses me. Not to say I need someone to talk to all the time about my sitch, but it would be nice to have a confident thats a dude. Hard to make friends unlike in my twenties but I am joining some meet ups and if its a mixed group I am ok with that too....I just need some fresh energy in my social circle.
Hang in there man. I believe all this work will pay off down the line. MWD the Divorce Buster herself once responded to my email with `Never give up. No matter how hopeless it seems there is always hope.` I extend that to you as well. Keep at it and on your side
Me 42 W:35 M: 14yrs T:15yrs D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs BD: "I want a D"09/03/14 Sep: 30/06/14
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.