MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART III

[ItHurts]

Yep, sorry you had to learn the hard way.

I will tell you this though, this is the perfect opportunity for you.

The next steps are crucial. Whether or not you are willing to follow through now is up to you. Tell her that while you understand her, you will not be fooled any more by her. Tell her that she knows how lucky she was to have you in her life and that you are moving on to live the life that you and her wanted to live.

Then end the conversation. She will blow up your phone trying to talk to you, but don't bite. Just ignore her and move on.

She has to get to the point where she will actually make and attempt at working on the relationship. If she still leaves, then you know your answer.

Thanks so much Mr. Bond. Even though I messed up big time I will say stopping here and reading yours and Sandi's posts yesterday did kind of, in a way, prepare me for yesterday in the back of my head. So for that I thank you both.

Now the problem with your next steps for me is this. I basically told WAW last night not to contact me again and told her to ask her friends not to contact me about any issues with her anymore...to just leave me alone.

WAW knows I've been seeing another girl the past month or so and I did tell her, when I was in my WAW-induced LBS fantasy world for two days, that this other girl complicates things just like her Florida move complicates things...this was during our very short-lived R talks. WAW understood. WAW also knows that I will not lie to the girl I've seeing, I tell her everything because she understands about my WAW and how I feel about her, we're almost still just friends actually because we are going super slow and just letting nature take its course. WAW admitted she is jealous of this girl but that she thinks I should continue with her...she said I deserve a girl with her head screwed on straight. I also have told WAW over time (to make sure it was in her head) that I am applying my "changes," the new me, to whatever goes on with the new girl one day...WAW said "well good for her, that's great...she gets the good ItHurts...she's a very lucky girl to have you."

So I'm wondering Mr. Bond, is me telling WAW to just leave me alone from now on close enough to what you recommended as far as telling her I am moving on to live the life WAW and I would have together? Isn't that kind of the same thing that I've been doing (GAL) that has gotten under WAW's skin in the past when she'd say things like "You didn't miss a beat after I left" and "you never did such and such with me" etc? I ask because WAW already knows that I am in a good place in my life now, she knows how things would be with me if she ever came back, and she knows I will be GAL'ing. She also knows I have a nice girl that I've been talking to that could one day turn into something romantic as well. So WAW knows I am pretty "set up" in my life now without her.

I just want to follow your advice but since I already told WAW to not contact me anymore, and she agreed, if that's the same thing as what you recommend or did I seal my fate by telling her not to contact me anymore whereby causing her to "really" never contact me again. Sorry for all the questions but you know your stuff, quite obviously, and I want to make the right next steps. Thanks so much to you for your insight and taking time to post.
P.S.- Oh and one more positive thing is WAW has my cell number now so her ability to text me is now there as well. More temptation for her perhaps since it's so much easier for her to contact me now than it was before.