Finding my way - part 3

[Meghan]

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I woke up this morning feeling a tiny bit better than yesterday. I'm calmer, but it feels like I've tapped a much deeper well of sadness.

I'm trying to get out for at least a bit every day. I'm exercising and seeing friends, and may try to add a class or some volunteering into the mix. I did okay while he was away, but realise that this could be different when he's actually moved out. I'm not looking forward to the next few weeks, but need to find some focus since I need to head back to work soon.

ganb8te, I'm unclear on whether this is a trial separation or a pre-divorce separation too, but my gut feeling is that right now he feels like it's the latter. I'm not sure if I want to know or not. I'm also not sure if I should be talking to him about what kind of separation this is and if and when we should be checking in with each other.

Can I ask how you approached this topic with your H.? I'm concerned H. would see this as pursuing or trying to change his mind or keep him trapped right now.