Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 4

[MrBond]

"- I am willing to do exactly as told, sometimes i use my own mind and tend to listen to my own logic which at this state is currently altered.. i guess thats where im going wrong. I will listen exactly as told."

Somehow I don't think you will. I mean, I recommended you take some kind of meditation to quiet your mind. And some counseling. Have you actually done either?

"- yeah your right, but i was mostly referring to her being able to do things without me saying anything."

She has a right to. But you condemn it when YOU don't think she should. That's control. Is she your slave to follow your every command? You sure talk as if she is.

"- i see what you mean, they are always right in their own sense and may have certain feelings that contradict your understanding, its about being able to extract those feelings from her and re-iterating it back to her in an understanding way."

That's part of it. The bigger part is that you have to understand and RESPECT their right to do what she wants to do. You don't do that. I have a feeling you don't have much respect for women in general.

"Doesn't seem like it. You think she's a slut right now and that she owes you.

- i actually do, why do i feel like this? And how did you get this so accurate?"

Your sexism reeks through your posts. You have a male dominated opinion that you show in your posts, especially to the women. We all see it. It's up to you whether or not you want to change that. It may be because of your upbringing, but that is an excuse. I've seen many (probably the majority) of men from male dominated societies/religions who have treated their women with respect.

"- to be fair shes stopped talking to him"

She had no choice because you threatened him. And she shouldn't have had to stop talking to him. That just shows your immaturity and insecurity. You don't seem to get it. She had a male FRIEND, to have adult conversations with, but you took it as if he were challenging you for her. How small is your d*ck that you feel threatened by someone whom was trying to help her. Do you believe in stoning her for talking to him? It seems like it because you still think it's wrong.

" but i have kept mentioning it.. how hurt i was.. i guess nothing did happen but in my mind so many different things kept playing back. Trying to overcome this is not easy."

Get over it. If you can't, then divorce and have an arrange marriage with a woman with no thought whatsoever.

"Read db again"

I don't think just reading the book is going to help. What ACTION do you plan to do?